Leave No Doubt!

By: sonofabeach96

Nov 18 2015

Category: Uncategorized


The events of this past weekend, in Paris, made me think.  Think about how quickly things can change, in ways we could never see coming.  BAM!  Your spouse, your parent, your sibling, your friend….or you even.  Gone!  Poof!  Just like that, a life extinguished, or permanently altered, with no warning, while doing a normal, run of the mill activity.  The poor people in Paris simply going out to eat, to a concert, and to a sporting event.  Then BOOM!  Suicide bombers and drive-by shootings.  My mother-in-law coming home from the grocery then BAM!  A train hits her car.  My friend flying home from Boston with his partner and adopted child then POW!  Their plane is hurtled into the World Trade Center.  My wife’s best friend going in for her routine mammogram.  Poof!  Cancer, fear, chemo, 2 breasts removed.  My wife is pregnant with our first child, excited, great pregnancy, beautiful baby boy.  KABLAM!  Not talking at age 3, diagnosed with Autism at age 6.  Next pregnancy, planned, excited, twins.  DOUBLE KABLAM!!  Nine weeks premature, nearly lost, hole in a heart, lungs not fully developed, NICU, ventilators, pediatric cardiologists.  Brother-in-law and his wife pregnant with twins at the same time as us.  WHAM!  Placental shunting, twins lost, he fades, she cheats, divorce ensues.

My point is, love the ones you’re with.  Hug them, cherish them, tell them, show them.  I read a post yesterday, and conversed a bit about it with kcrambles, about telling the ones you love that you do, in fact, love them.  Telling them daily how much they mean to you.  How much you cherish them being in your life.  How lucky you are to have them.  Because, you never know.  Life is fragile, we are all fragile creatures.  We like to think we’re invincible, super-human strong, when in fact, we are not.  Life can be changed or taken away in a heartbeat, and should not be taken for granted.

Watching the events in Paris, reading about the aftermath, then reading KC’s post all had me thinking.  And then seeing this from my wife’s Facebook last night really hit home.  Read the quote below.  It’s from a Parisian husband, now made a widower.  It’s written towards the terrorists who orchestrated those attacks.  But what struck me was the fact that he is now a man with a young son, suddenly left without a wife and his son left without a mother, in the blink of an eye:

“Friday night you took away the life of an exceptional human being, the love of my life, the mother of my son.  But you will not have my hatred.  I do not know who you are, and I do not wish to.  You are dead souls.  If the God for whom you kill so blindly has made us in His image, every bullet in the body of my wife will have been a wound in His heart.  So I will not give you the privilege of hating you.  You certainly sought it, but replying to hatred with anger would be giving in to the same ignorance which made you into what you are.  You want me to be frightened, that I should look into the eyes of my fellow citizens with distrust, that I sacrifice my freedom for security.  You lost.  I will carry on as before.  I saw her this morning.  Finally, after nights and days of waiting.  She was as beautiful as when she left on Friday evening, as beautiful as when I fell madly in love with her more than 12 years ago.  I am of course, devastated by heartbreak, I’ll cede you that little victory, but it will be short lived.  I know that she will be with us every day and we will meet again in a paradise of free souls to which you will never have access.”

The fact that his wife was there Friday morning, then POOF!, gone Friday night,  makes a poignant point.  Love those you love, with all your might.  Tell them, show them, vehemently…daily.  There may not be another chance to do so.  Leave no doubt!

My songs of the day are:

“We Can Work It Out” by The Beatles

“The Action” by Keb’ Mo’

“In Between Dreams” by Jack Johnson

“Blessed To Be A Witness” by Ben Harper

“Riptide” by Vance Joy




30 comments on “Leave No Doubt!”

  1. Truly.
    Great post, and I really can’t add with a comment, because it stands alone!

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    • Thanks man. When my wife showed me the Facebook post by the guy who lost his wife, it was almost too hard to watch. It really hit home. Watch it if you can. So sad. But the way he said she was as beautiful Tuesday when he saw her in the morgue as she was when he last saw her that Friday morning? Gut wrenching.

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  2. I shared the video on my own FB yesterday of that courageous now widower…….and I have to agree with Thumbup’s picture comment!! 🙂

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    • So, so sad. He’s right though. To live with hate for what they took from him and his son is to allow them what they hoped for. Terrible, and so senseless. But anyone who watched that will stand behind all that is right in the world. I feel so bad for him, but worse for his son. 😔

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  3. Very well said, friend. I haven’t seen that video yet but will look for it. Did you see this from Twitter – https://mobile.twitter.com/parisvictims. It’s one tweet from/about each Paris victim. The tweets are profoundly powerful and heartbreaking in their simplicity. Example, “Elif’s husband.” 😰

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    • I haven’t yet. Not sure how much of it I can handle. I’ll read em tonight a little at a time. Like I said in my post, I had a high school buddy who was on the plane that hit the WTC first. It brings back some shitty memories. It’s heartbreaking reading these stories after what happened in Paris. Then I just get pissed. Useless emotion, but real at the moment it shows up.

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      • I’m thinking sad and pissed are both appreciate, regardless of how useless one may or may not be. I’m sorry about your friend who was on the plane, btw. More than a bit of what you wrote hit home. Good time to go look at funnyordie.com!!

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      • I’m ok. It was a long time ago now. Trust me, that funeral sucked. But seeing this latest nonsense just floods it back. I agree, I guess there are no useless emotions, if you’re feeling them, they are valid. Just don’t like either, ya know?

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      • Indeed I do.

        You’re pretty good at translating auto-correct mistakes, lol.

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      • Autocorrect is evil! I look back at some of the things I’ve sent and think”Wtf!!!”. 😃

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  4. All our hearts are breaking. Showing love to one another is the way to heal them.

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  5. Tears and hugs SOB.

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  6. You and that widowers writing says it all. Leave no doubt! And I know love never dies even if your loved ones has passed, the love is still there from both sides. That’s an eternal connection that makes me feeling strong.

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  7. I respect your and your wife’s courage, SOB.
    Have seen the video and cried. What an outstanding human he is !

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  8. Very well said… We have that rule in our house that we never leave without kissing each other and saying goodbye. Even when we have an argument, which sometimes is not that easy. When we go to bed we tell each other how much we love each other. You are so right. Your life can change from one moment to another.

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  9. It is truly sad to see what is going on in this world. I agree with you, that anyone can be gone in a blink of an eye. Yes, it is very important to make the time for your family & friends, letting them know that you care & love them, no matter what!
    Please take the time to let them know you care! You may never have that chance again!

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