A Friend In Need…..

By: sonofabeach96

May 16 2018

Category: Uncategorized


They say a friend in need is a friend indeed.  Well, I have a friend in need, and she’s most definitely a friend indeed.  Her name is Sandra, and she’s one of the peeps I’ve followed along with for the longest here in WP land.

She’s been struggling recently, and it kills me to see her do so.  Naturally, when the shit hits the fan, we all get knocked down a bit.  But, in her case, the fan has been relentless.  So, those of us who’ve known her for some time are worried.  One of us, Cyranny, has taken it upon herself to encourage us to encourage her, in the hopes of lifting her spirits and gaining the confidence in herself that escapes her.  If you know Sandra, and would like to participate in this, check out Cyranny’s original post for details


Now, in that original post by Cyr, she asks us to answer a few questions, interview-style, about our dear friend Sandra.  Here they are, with my responses:

How did you discover Sandra’s blog?

It’s been so long ago now that I really don’t recall…exactly.  But, I think it was through her commenting on a comment I made on somebody else’s post.  I think.  I do remember that the response she wrote made me snicker…because, you know, she’s a bit of a smartass.  I liked her right away, and I immediately hit the “Follow” button once I’d read a post or two.  And I haven’t regretted it since.

How long have you been following her?

Well, I started doing this blog thang in June of 2015, so I’m guessing it’s been since July or August of 2015.  My memory isn’t always 100% reliable, but I’m pretty sure that time frame is reasonably accurate.

What do you enjoy the most about “What Sandra Thinks”?

Hmm, that’s a multiple answer question.  The obvious answer is her writing.  If you were to ask her, she’d likely poopoo this, but she’s a fantastic wordsmith, saying volumes in succinct and powerful ways.  I think she’d be a terrific songwriter, frankly.  She can tell an entire story in just a few stanzas, sometimes even in one stanza.  She’s more talented than she gives herself credit for….which leads me to have a thought of putting a foot up her arse out of frustration….but I digress.  Her writing style is humorous, honest, sometimes steamy, and sometimes sweet….sometimes bitingly dark.  Her posts are ones I always look forward to, and are missed when she lays low for a bit.

But I enjoy more than just her writing style and her way with words.  She’s funny, she’s a smartass (which I love about her), she’s terrific to interact with, I love talking music with her, I’ve tried my damnedest to cultivate her interest in photography, and she’s a talented graphic artist with her own page on Redbubble, and I would highly recommend you go there and buy tons of stuff!  There really isn’t anything about her site I don’t like.  Well, with the exception of her being so friggin’ hard on herself.  I vehemently disagree with her on that one…nearly daily.  

What do you like the most about Sandra herself?

Seriously, what’s not to like?  She’s awesome. Funny, twisted sense of humor, which I love, great taste in music, sweet, kind, gentle, brutally honest, there with support for others even when she feels lost herself, and talented.  Let me repeat that for her:  YOU ARE TALENTED!!!  Not to go all “Fast Times At Ridgemont High” on you girl, but, learn it, live it, know it!

What would be one of your favorite posts from Sandra?

Oh man, this is tough.  I love all of her posts, even the ones that take a dark turn or discuss things of a sad nature.  But I think my favorites have been her Song Of The Day posts and her poetry.  Her recurring series’ and stories are terrific too.  And her posts about things that piss her off.  I love it when she goes on rants.  They’re always relatable and they’ll make you wet yourself from laughing.  Basically, I’m just a fan.  Period.

What would you tell Sandra, if you two were talking over a cup of coffee?

First thing I’d do is give her a giant bear hug.  I’ve felt the urge to do that for years now, and if we lived closer, that would’ve already happened.  She’ll freely admit that I try to be all rainbows and butterflies with her….frequently.  Likely….no, definitely…to the point of irritation.  I encourage, I empathize, and I even tough-love her sometimes.  But, in person, versus in the virtual world we exist in, it’d be different.  Sitting face-to-face with a friend, it’s easier to be a listener, to read body language and facial expressions, and to be supportive with a minimum of conversation from the listener.  I’d just be there, with a hug, a smile, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to bend.

But, after listening for a while, and likely throwing in some rainbows and butterflies now and then, I’d get to making her laugh.  And smile.  And getting out of there for something fun, ala Ferris Bueller getting under the skin of his buddy Cameron.  Or just for a walk, where I’d likely try to further cultivate that photography eye that I know is just lurking below the surface…and neighboring the fuck-this-shit fighting spirit that appears to be really efficient at playing hide-and-go-seek with her psyche.  Whether she liked it or not, I’d be there to light that fire.  I’m a persistently persistent motherf$&@er….just ask her.  She can verify that.

What do you wish for Sandra, in the future?

Oh, let me count the ways here.  To keep it simple, I’d wish for peace for my dear friend.  Peace from financial struggle, pain, writers block, worrying about her kids, her marriage, in her ability to work. And I’d wish for her to receive the love she yearns for…and deserves.


So, there you have it.  If you know Sandra, please feel free to participate in this love fest.    I hear we’re rendering her speechless, which is always fun to do.  But, if you don’t know her yet, what the hell are you waiting for?  Go!  Now!  You won’t regret it.

As for you, Sandra, I hope you know how much we love you.  We are blessed to know you, and considered your friend.  There’s a reason for that, in spite of what you may think, or how often you wonder why we do.  It’s because you’re awesome.  Stay cool.  And I’ll just continue to generally pester the shit outta you.   Love ya’ bunches.  😊😊

50 comments on “A Friend In Need…..”

  1. What would we do without you, Sonofa?? 😉

    Liked by 4 people

  2. I’m thinking you’re pretty awesome yourself, Beach. This is perfect. 💖 I am tearing up actually…

    Liked by 5 people

  3. just wow…everyone should have a friend like you sonofa………everyone.

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  4. You sound like an absolutely awesome friend. This is such a great post and I’m sure Sandra will love it. 🙂

    Liked by 5 people

  5. Very nice! I’m sure she will greatly appreciate your post. I knew you were a sweetheart.🤗

    Liked by 3 people

  6. One of the million reasons I love this writing community. ❤️

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  7. I was doing so well. Totally keeping my shit together. Until I got to the ‘cup of coffee’ part. And now I’m all teary-eyed. This one really got me. I don’t know what the hell you did to me, but thanks a lot. No, seriously, though. Thank you. You are one of the best friends I’ve ever had… despite the sunshine crap. 😉 I know you do it out of love, so I can excuse it. Mostly.

    Some of the things you said… they made me think I need some of whatever the hell you’re smoking. I know… you mean it… you really think all those things about me. And I promise… I do try to believe them. But it’s a struggle for me. You already know that. Please don’t kick my ass.

    Thank you for those wishes for me… for what you said… for all of this. You are truly an amazing friend… and even though I want to punch you sometimes, I’d be even more lost without you.

    I still feel pretty speechless… it took me quite a while… and multiple readings of this post… to be able to respond. I hope you know how thankful I am for you… ♥

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  8. You just showed what this community is for. Sharing and caring. Lovely post!

    Liked by 2 people

  9. You are the sweetest Tony! Made me cry reading this. She is so amazing and I’m so happy she has so many wonderful friends like you to be there for her. Hugs!

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  10. You are so awesome to do this kind of post. And I must apologise for running behind on reading your work.

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