TMI? Maybe….

By: sonofabeach96

Jun 05 2018

Category: Uncategorized


To some of my followers, this post may be TMI.  If so, I apologize in advance.  I told the host of this little questionnaire, Vinnie, that I feel like maybe I put off this dad/husband/family guy vibe, and that I’m devoted to each…intently.

That’s all true. I am all of those things, and I adore that responsibility.  I sought it out, even, as things unfolded.  But, I wasn’t always a dad or husband.  I was a young person, exploring it all without impunity, as I’m sure many of you were, or are.  Thus, some of these answers likely will not fit the persona.   That said, even though this may be a departure for me, Vinnie’s my guy, so fuck it, I’m gonna take part.   Here goes nothin’:


Here are Vinnie’s questions:

What’s the best thing about sex for you?

What’s not to love?  It’s fantastic!

Now, with the right person?  It’s mind blowing.  With the right person, there’s no more vulnerable, passionate, intense, or intimate activity.  It’s sensory overload, and will make ones head all swimmy, and take ones breath away.

Where’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?

Hmmm.  I could go a couple different ways with this one, but I’d say in a New Orleans bar bathroom stall.  And it wasn’t even Mardi Gras!

What’s the most amount of times you’ve had sex in a day?

4.  First day of our honeymoon.

Ever partaken in group sex?

Yes, though I won’t go into details, and they were long before I even met my wife.

One thing I will say about the group thing though, to anyone considering it, is this: be careful who you participate with, and be certain YOU are ready for the post-session potential consequences.  Feelings are easily hurt, someone may feel “left out”, someone may note “…you don’t do that/respond like that to me…”, and the potential for un-agreed upon liaisons after the fact….along with any number of other bad scenarios that may result of a little fun.  This is something that should be discussed openly and thoroughly before going through with, if in a long-term or serious relationship.  It’s not for everyone, and I suppose it takes trying it to see if it’s right for you.  But be aware, it may not end well.

What’s your biggest fetish?

Dont really have one, at least what I’d consider a fetish.  I prefer brunnettes, I really adore thigh-high stockings….especially black, and, when I was a late-teen/early 20’s single guy, I was always attracted to, and spent time with, women older than me…sometimes, significantly.  Other than that, I guess I’m kinda boring in the fetish department.

Have you ever recorded yourself having sex?

Once.  Re-watched it together, kinda had a snicker…because the camera fell over, and then deleted it.  Meh.  Wasn’t that exciting.

What is a big no no in sex for you?

Well, as a heterosexual, I’m not into guys.  I have never, nor will I ever, pay for sex.  And attempting to hound a partner into something said partner isn’t comfortable with.

Oh, as a side note, I’ll add cheating on me/me cheating on someone.  It’s rude.  It’s soul crushing.  It’s a shitty thing to do to someone.  I agree, before anyone points this out, that all scenarios are different, walk a mile in someone’s shoes, etc.  Let me make this clear: I am not judging anyone who has/is/will cheat.  Scenarios and relationships are as individual as…well, individuals.  You do you.  But, I won’t.  And I won’t tolerate being cheated on.

What are you good at sexually?

Well, I suppose you’d have to ask my wife about that one.  If pressed for an answer though, I’d say being an unselfish lover.  My biggest turn on is pleasing my partner.  As often, and in as many ways, as possible.

Do you believe in being sexually open?

Of course.  Be it discussing it with our pubescent kids, for medical/educational purposes, or, especially, with my wife.  People treat sex like it’s some sorta taboo, embarrassing subject, likely because that’s when they feel most vulnerable themselves, as mentioned earlier, but that’s merely a guess.  I often wonder if people truly understand that without sex, none of us would be here.  It’s as innate a bodily function/urge as there is, and as old as life itself.  What’s the big deal?  Now, it doesn’t have to be discussed in a crude way, overly descriptive way, or in a seedy way, but there’s not a thing to be embarrassed about, in my opinion.

And finally, is sex overrated?

Well, I answered this already, on Vinnie’s original post, but I’ll reiterate it here.  No!  Sex is not overrated!  It’s fantastic.  And when you’re having sex with a partner that you’re emotionally attached to, it’s an amazing experience of sensory delight!   No, sex is most certainly not overrated.  And if it is, there’s likely a medical issue, it’s being done incorrectly, or one is with the wrong partner.  Otherwise, I don’t see how it could be anything but terrific.


There ya’ go.  TMI?  Probably.  But, I’ve already hit “Publish”, so, too late now.  If you’re interested in playing along with Vin’s questionnaire, please, feel free.  Link to his post above, and let it ride…no pun intended.  😏

56 comments on “TMI? Maybe….”

  1. I was totally sucked in by the TMI! I agree with you completely regarding your answer to #9. We all do it (I think) so what’s the big deal? Plus the more open and honest I am with others, the more it seems to help them with their sexual hang ups…we were just talking baout this with a couple of friends of ours…

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  2. Two? Two comments? I would imagine you will overload the WP comments section of your blog! 😂
    Good for you, being open and honest. And adding that you have a great relationship with your wife is certainly a wonderful thing to celebrate. If only more couples would say the same. I think it’s rare.
    Getting to know you more and more, I’m happy to think of you as a friend. 🤗

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    • Hahaha! Probably actually is TMI. But hey, I did simply answer the questions. I figured it’d go over one of two ways…and minimal traffic and comments was one. I still had fun doing it, and i like Vinnie very much, so I played along.

      And, that last part was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. Thank you. I’m happy to know you as a friend as well. It’s been my pleasure. 😊😊

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  3. I agree with your answers completely. I’ve never done a group thing but I thought your caution made sense. And I’m with you on the cheating issue. If things can’t be worked out, move on. Sex is a great thing, especially in a committed relationship!

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  4. You responded in a very tasteful way so I didn’t think TMI. You did make me laugh with the group sex and your takeaway. lol! Fun! 🙂

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    • Hey! Long time no hear! How the hell are you? Hope all is well. As for the group thing, I stand by those warnings. Once was great, but second time didn’t go well. Turned out it wasn’t worth the repercussions. Live and learn though. Great to hear from you. Don’t be a stranger. 😊😊

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      • Lol! You crack me up!

        I’m good. Ready for summer! Hope you guys are well. How did the year go for your son at his new school? Were you overall happy? 🙂

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      • Good! His year went fairly smoothly, after the first few weeks. He’s amazingly adaptable, and continues to blow us away. Couldn’t be more proud of him. Summer going well thus far, and leaving Saturday for a week in Italy…which doesn’t suck. How’s your slice of the world? Captain? Kids? Seems like forever since I’d heard from ya’. Great to do so again. 😊

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      • What a champion! I’m glad it went so well for him!
        Enjoy italia! I’m jealous. No major vacations planned for us. But we are wonderful and very ready to just take it easy this summer. (If it’ll ever stop raining in these parts!) Captain is fantastic and the kids are doing just as great! Please have a safe and fun trip. Post pictures of your trip!
        Great (quickly) catching up. 🙂

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      • Absolutely! 1000’s of pics to be taken, I’m sure! Glad y’all are doing well, and living where y’all do, it’s like a vacation every day anyway! Say hi to the Keys for me! Great catching up with you as well! Don’t be a stranger. 😊😊

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  5. Cheers for answering the questions, I knew the answers would be eventful. You delivered my friend.

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  6. ❤ Great answers and you're right…cheating crushes and kills.

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    • Yep. I’ve watched one of my best friends discover, and deal with the aftermath, of being cheated on. It’s horrible. They’re making a go of it, nearly 2 years Post-discovery now, but it’s been rough. Frankly, and i only said this to him once, but I’d have ended it immediately, I’m afraid. Couldn’t see myself ever trusting them again. Every situation is different though. 😕


  7. Hehehe nice to know more about you even though it’s TMI

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  8. hahahaha this was a fun one to read! Looking back at the past can be fun and also reminds us to be patient in the present! Now that many of my kids are adults I find I can be more understanding of their life experiences!

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  9. Tony! Get me my smelling salts! Was not expecting this but it’s interesting to hear (an honest) man’s perspective.

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