Share Your World: January 14, 2019

By: sonofabeach96

Jan 20 2019

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Time for this week’s Share Your World from Sparks From A Combustible Mind.

 

Here are her questions for the week:

You’re walking in a forest and you find a black suitcase.  Inside it is one millions dollars and a piece of paper, stained in blood and bearing the single word “Don’t!”  Would you take the suitcase home or leave it?

Hmmm?  That’s a lot of dough.  But, what’s with the note?  Kinda esoteric.  Is it a warning of impending doom and destruction to one’s life, ala Jumanji, if one dare take the case?  Is it cursed, like the Hope Diamond?  Is it boobie trapped?  This is quite the quandary!

Nah!  Who am i kidding?  I take the money!  Maybe.

Imagine you lapsed and cheated on your partner. You feel horrible and you know you’ll never do it again, because the feeling is so awful. Would you confess?

Lapsed?  Hahaha!  That’s a funny way to describe that.  Oops!  I fucked somebody else!  Sorry.

I don’t think so.  The only thing worse than being cheated on is not knowing you’re being cheated on.  When you find out, you’d think the fact that there was another dude’s dick where yours has been, which is not only irresponsible, but potentially dangerous, and is lovely to think about, would hurt the most.  That part of it is shitty to the max, absolutely.  But, the worst is discovering that you’ve been played.  Lied to, repeatedly.   Realizing they’ve been sneaking around behind your back, making up shit to go off and get laid.  All while you think she’s just out with her mom or bestie, or whatever bullshit story is concocted for their benefit.  Then they come home to you.  And act like all is hunky dory.

You bet your ass I’d WANT to know.  ASAP.  The lies are what’s not easy to overcome, if ever overcome at all.  Oh, and that pesky new need to get STD testing?  That’s a lovely bonus.  I’ve heard the opinion that if you’ve cheated, why tell your partner?  It only hurts them more, “unnecessarily”, and some even say it’s selfish of the cheater because they’re easing their own guilt instead of thinking of the partner they betrayed.  Bullshit.  The selfish train left the station they removed clothing for someone new, shared the most intimate moment with someone new, and then hid it/lied about it to the person they are supposedly committed to.  Yes, I’d want to know immediately.  In a committed relationship, the partner DESERVES to know.  Their emotional and physical health have been put at risk, unknowingly.  That’s what’s selfish.

Now, whether the cheater would spill?  That’s unlikely.  The save-your-own-ass instinct kicks in and most would not say a word, I believe.  The fantasy is ruined if it isn’t secret, and I’d bet the affair partner likely seems much less appealing in the light of day.  Not to mention the potential for a messy divorce, custody hearings, and potential loss of friends.  I’d guess that the vast majority of affairs are discovered, not admitted to.  I suppose it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

That said, though, I get that every relationship is as unique as the people involved in it.  Situations and parameters are set by that particular couple.  I’m just speaking from personal experience, what I’ve seen from my parents and from nursing one of my best friends through the chaos and hurt and anger and confusion that resulted from his own discovery of an affair.  And the way I felt after having a girlfriend cheat years ago.  Cheaters kinda suck.  Disagree with my opinion?  You do you, man.

Would you live your life differently if nobody ever judged you for anything you did?

Not really.

Would a fly without wings be called a walk? No? What would you call it?

Spider snack.

What’s something that brought joy and lightness of being to you this past week?

Things have been pretty stress-filled around here for about 6 weeks now.  Finally starting to resolve themselves, in large part, and it feels good to be getting back to normal.

 

My songs of the day are:

“More Than Just A Joy” by Aretha Franklin

”If I Had $1,000,000” by Barenaked Ladies

”Been Caught Cheating” by Stereophonics

“Poor Judge” by Aimee Mann

”Spider Web” by Joan Osborne

”Joy” by Lucinda Williams

“You Don’t Need A Million Dollars” by Joe Cocker

”Cheat” by The Clash

14 comments on “Share Your World: January 14, 2019”

  1. Perfect answers. Perfect.

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  2. You’ve obviously have seen the destruction that infidelity can do. Very well put. I agree 100%.
    Spider snack. That made me grin. 😄

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  3. “Spider snack??” BWAHAHAHHA!! Some one else answered that one “grounded” which was pretty hilarious too. Not that flies without wings are funny… oh heck. Nevermind. 😉 Thanks for Sharing Your World this week!! I love the song selections…so appropriate! And I was amazed at your ‘cheater’ answer. It’s educational certainly, to see perspective from the male point of view. Usually women are the ones who are so vocal about that stuff (not that men aren’t cheated on as much as women). I’m sorry for your experiences and I can say that it’s never black and white…as you wrote “each relationship is as unique and complex as the people in that relationship” (paraphrased). Thanks again for participating! 😀

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  4. Whew… I totally agree with you, Beach! Well said. I’m glad to hear your stress is lifting. 🙂

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